Signed Sirelle: JANUARY 2015 – “Faith”

In a month where we honor the legacy of one of the most extraordinary figures in American history — Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. — I recently found myself dissecting a variety of his most infamous messages.

There are obviously several Dr. King quotes that resonate globally, but the one that stood out to me as being specifically significant to today’s twenty-somethings dealt with faith. And that is a concept I believe to be foreign among this generation.

“Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase,” Dr. King once said. But what is faith, and why does it seem to be so nonexistent among the millennial culture?

Ode to OlinThe concept of faith both begins and ends with belief. Believing that no matter the circumstance, one can achieve whatever it is they set their mind to. You see, faith is like an equation, where the formula is Faith = circumstance ÷ vision.

Your circumstances don’t define you. They aren’t who you are, they’re what you’re faced with. But they can be broken down or divided with a vision; a vision of how one will overcome their roadblock of circumstances, and that vision is achieved by faith.

More than ever we’re seeing present-day twenty-somethings break away from corporate and societal norms, in pursuit of revolutionary endeavors. Now, our predecessors may simply label it a rebellion, and that may be true, but I find it to be an intrinsic rebellion. Whether it’s dropping out of Harvard to build a globalized brand, or leaving Wall Street to found a pizza chain, these are occurrences that are rooted in faith.

In my life, alone, there are a couple of individuals who have recently walked away from corporate ranks to embark on journeys that have transformed from once untamed dreams to now attainable goals. And like anyone, they will stumble along the way — as it was once said, “There can be no great victories in life, unless there’s tremendous adversity” — so it is the continuation of putting one foot in front of the other that will lead them to their destiny; a destiny manifested in faith.

So to you I say, whatever it is in life that drives you, fuel it. Never let the uncertainty of what lies ahead deter you from claiming your destiny. Grab ahold of the rail on your staircase of life and climb to the top. Although you may be your own worst enemy, never forget that you are your grandest champion.

Signed,

Sirelle

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Essentials: COAST™ Knit Caps

COAST knit capsEvery season I seek to find that “must-have” item. Hats, for me, have always served to be quintessential to my own personal style. And with the weather dipping into frigid temperatures, knit caps — specifically — seem to have my attention.

However, what I have always loved about the knitted cap is that they really seem to transcend seasons. One can, sort of, get away with slipping on a knit cap outside of the winter season without revolting against seasonal norms. And that’s why I’ve tabbed COAST™ knit caps as an essential December item.

Comprised entirely of acrylic fabric, the knits are featured in several colorways. They exude a rugged elegance, by blending both flare and simplicity, with the capability of appealing to both the Broad Street bully and the California dream girl.

They are available at the brand’s website.

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Signed Sirelle: DECEMBER 2014 – “Open Letter to a Closed Mind”

Black-and-white-oil-painting1To Whom It May Concern,

Humanity. It’s defined widely as benevolence, which some, then, refer to as kindheartedness. Personally, I like to think of humanity as promoting goodwill for the betterment of others.

We are in the midst of a polarizing time in society. On the whole, I could not be more pleased with the peaceful acts of protesting, complemented, valiantly, by global illustrations of solidarity.

But for every positive reaction, there’s an accompanying negative; Newton’s Third Law, essentially. You know, the whole “opposite reaction” notion. Or, the more I think about it, maybe you don’t know. Which would explain your routine, uninformed opinion on such an intolerable basis.

You see, there are things in this world that may have no effect on you, yet a life-changing effect on others. And I believe the true character of an individual rests on their response to such a reality. It’s what Frederick Douglass was for women’s suffrage, or the Freedom Riders for the Civil Rights Movement.

Though I get it, you want it all to just go away. It’s mentally fatiguing, constantly hearing about race and injustice, yeah? Well if hearing about it is anything comparable to living with it, then yeah, I can imagine it’s a bit inconvenient.

Unfortunately, injustice is a little less “Boy who cried wolf,” and a little more “Death via cop chokehold ruled homicide.. cop not indicted.” Injustice is why #BlackLivesMatter to the Caucasian grandmother marching through New York City, because “Injustice everywhere is a threat to justice everywhere,” serves to be more than an Instagram decoration for her.

At the end of the day, I’ve learned that it all boils down to education. And often, those who know the least say the most. With that said, now — more than ever — is a pivotal time to educate yourself on the matter(s) of injustice. It’s why you have two ears and only one mouth: so you can listen twice as much as you talk.

Signed,

Sirelle

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Signed Sirelle: NOVEMBER 2014 – “Selfish Is The New Selfless”

There seems to be have been an attack campaign launched against society’s 20-something’s who haven’t yet had children, nor gotten engaged. Firstly, may someone please point me in the direction of the doctrine which mandated that such events should have happened by now?

black and white drum artFor those of us 20-something’s without either of the aforementioned, we are swiftly approaching our favorite time of the year. The holidays. Or, as our families like to think of it, “the season of 20 Questions”.

Our Baby-Boomer grandparents love to tell us we’re overdue for both, because “In my day” — by 21 — “I’d already started a family and fought in a war!” Yeah? Well we fight a war, too. The one where we decide if we want to eat Blue Bell ice cream or leftover pasta for dinner, on the eve of direct deposit, and excuse the hell out of us if we’re not yet ready to share either with a child.

And nothing screams Thanksgiving like your great-aunt Lucille badgering you about your lack of a fiancée present at dinner, when most of us still sit at the kiddie table, for crying out loud.

They say we’re selfish. But I happen to believe that selfish is the new selfless. For those of us able to admit we’re not ready to start a family, aren’t we, then, making the right decision by refraining from doing so? Heaven knows the divorce rate doesn’t need any increases at the moment. 

Times are changing. Our generation is changing. We’re putting careers on hold to travel the world, attend graduate school, and pursue attainable dreams more than ever before. It’s not to say that one can’t do all those things and balance a family life, rather that a large majority of us simply don’t want to. And yes, that may be selfish, yet it’s also a simultaneous act of selflessness to not subject other beings to our fast-paced, reluctant environments.

Gene Simmons once said, “The sad thing is most people have to check with someone before they do the things that make them happy. We’re all passing through; the least we can do is be happy, and the only way to do that is by being selfish.”

For most 20-something’s, we’re not looking for permission to do this or to do that. We’re just moving to the beat of our own drum.

Signed,

Sirelle

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Oscar de la Renta: The Godfather of Glamour

Karlie Kloss and Oscar de la Renta“I wanted this, I wanted to do this, but my work is me, and it has to be right.”

There is no shortage of Oscar de la Renta quotes, though it is the preceding that I find most favorable. It embodies the quintessence of the man: Right, he never got it wrong.

The world lost an extraordinary individual on Monday, as the globally-renowned fashion designer died of complications from cancer at the age of 82, his wife told The New York Times.

 

From beginning to end, everything Oscar de la Renta did, he did right. His work spread over the course of several decades, altering with the times yet never losing its essence. And that was the brilliance of de la Renta. He transcended his trade, you see. Because even if an individual doesn’t follow fashion, they have more than likely heard of Oscar de la Renta.

Born in the Dominican Republic, de la Renta came to the United States during the 1960s. Then, the ascending designer had already trained under the tutelage of Cristobal Balenciaga, and at Lanvin in Paris by the time he’d arrived in the States. He excelled almost immediately.

Blending his Dominican roots and Parisian training, de la Renta fabricated an American masterpiece to be revered the world over. It was de la Renta who initially served as (and perhaps, thee) pioneer of high fashion in the States — acquiring respect from the European houses — and paving the way for the likes of Carolina Herrera and Michael Kors. Though it was not until 1993 that de la Renta made his debut as a couture designer, for the house of Balmain.

Celebrities in Oscar de la Renta

With Oscar de la Renta it was always about the beauty. The glamour. And these were the key essentials that attracted Hollywood to his creations.

There were few things more gratifying for de la Renta than seeing his dresses paraded across red carpets by the world’s most beautiful women. Loyalists such as Sarah Jessica Parker, Taylor Swift, and Jessica Biel have dressed in de la Renta’s designs for countless occasions.

It was Hollywood that made de la Renta’s designs glamourous, but it was the White House that made them elegant. Oscar de la Renta, essentially, was the unofficial “First Couturier” of the United States. Beginning with Jacqueline Kennedy, de la Renta had dressed almost every First Lady since, including Michelle Obama. Having said that,  the most notable of those relationships was the one shared with Hillary Clinton.

Mrs. Clinton began wearing de la Renta’s designs during her husband’s first term, and the family had maintained a significant relationship with the designer ever since. The William J. Clinton Presidential Library hosted a temporary exhibit in 2013 honoring Oscar de la Renta’s iconic excellence in American fashion history.

We will never see another Oscar de la Renta. He was a merciful force in the most elegant way. What made de la Renta’s work genius was that it was, and is, timeless. Although the fashion industry has lost one of the all-time greats, the house is now in the hands of designer Peter Copping. Copping, the former artistic director at Nina Ricci, was appointed the new creative director and is scheduled to begin work on November 3.

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Press Play: FALL 2014

OutsideInArtStudio PaintingThere’s something about this time of year that I have always found endearing. It’s a peculiar fascination, really, as I’ve never been able to pinpoint exactly why the Fall season evokes such a passion within me. Maybe it’s the elements that mesh with the season, such as: celebrations and music. Though it is the latter that I find most noteworthy. Music has the ability to incorporate several elements into one, prompting every Fall playlist to tell a story.

“The Morning” x The Weeknd: With the decreasing temperatures come frosted windshields and bone-chilling gusts of wind deterring you from making that early Saturday coffee run. “The Morning” serves as an adequate substitute for you and your significant other, as this track is sure to raise the temperature in the room. There’s something about the first thirty-one seconds that makes you want every inch of your significant other. Be careful with this track… it may catch up with you nine months later.

“If You Ever Want To Be In Love” x James Bay: Whether a chance encounter on an October stroll through Central Park or visiting home for the holidays, this season has a habit of resurrecting people from your past into your present. It can be a blessing, or a curse. “If You Ever Want To Be In Love” is the autumn anthem for those individuals hoping that this Fall reunites them with the one that got away.

“Don’t” x Ed Sheeran: Not every emotion is warm and fuzzy this season. Sometimes the wind chill isn’t all that’s cold. Ed Sheeran’s latest hit is for the asexual individual immune to the “cuffing season” bullshit. This is a single for the “fool me once..” but you won’t fool me again crowd.

“I’m Not The Only One” x Sam Smith: Heartbreak is one of those “death and taxes” guarantees in life. Everyone will experience it. Unfortunately some more piercing than the rest. This track, however, is so artistically hypnotizing that it almost makes you want to experience heartbreak just for justification as to why you’ve played it 19 times in a row.

“Shot For Me” x Drake: I haven’t the slightest idea what it is about cold temperatures that warms up your ex(es) to the thought of you. Perhaps there’s something about pumpkin-infused drinks and vodka that inspires them to spam your inbox. If such is this case, cheers to them drinking themselves into oblivion in your honor.

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Yea, Alabama: The Standard

If you step outside for a moment and listen closely, you may still hear them celebrating in northern Mississippi. Hell, if you just get on Twitter you can see it, quite literally. (Someone should remind them they have another game this Saturday versus a top-ranked opponent.)

Mark Ingram, Alabama fathead

Following a recent loss to the Ole Miss Rebels — who at the time were ranked 11th in the nation — there are questions looming as to whether the Alabama Crimson Tide is nearing the end of an era. A dynastic era. The loss would be Alabama’s third in seven games. And third straight versus a ranked opponent.

Now, that may sound cringeworthy — “ranked” — but none of those teams were ranked lower than 11th. There was Auburn (4th), Oklahoma and Ole Miss (who’re both ranked 11th when they defeated Alabama). Thus, it’s fair to determine that the Crimson Tide were defeated by fairly formidable competition.

Alabama gets every opponent’s best game; a game versus the Crimson Tide is their Super Bowl. I must admit, nonetheless, that as a lifelong Alabama fan — especially in the Saban era — I find a jeopardizing amusement in defeat. It’s like a nationally observed holiday when Alabama loses a game. I don’t believe I’ve ever seen anything like it. Of the three aforementioned losses, two of them happened on the road, causing the opponent’s fans to storm the field at the conclusion of the game. Think about that for a second: a team held to such a mythological standard, that it incites near riot-like celebrations into the souls of thousands immediately following its defeat. Pretty neat stuff.

But here is where I must bust gloating bubbles. Did you really beat Alabama, or did Alabama beat themselves? 

There’s this belief within the organization — instilled by head coach Nick Saban, himself — that when the Crimson Tide loses a game, it’s more about what they did to defeat themselves, then what the opponent did; and rarely is that theory debunked. Take the 2011 season for example: when Alabama lost to LSU in the regular season, the general consensus among coaches, players and fans was that Alabama beat themselves.

I believed that with my entire being. So when it was determined that the two teams would rematch in the BCS National Championship Game that postseason, I knew the end result would be different. I remember declaring that “Bama will blow LSU out in that game,” at my barbershop — I was laughed out that barbershop. But I had the last laugh, Alabama won the game 21-0.

You see, there’s this element that Coach Saban is always fighting against his program: complacency. Sometimes you achieve a goal, and then achieve it again.. and again, and at some point you begin to believe that success is automatic. That you no longer have to work for it. And when you succumb to that belief in life you wind up with a loss.

There’s a quote by golf great Jack Nicklaus that states, “Confidence is the most important single factor in this game, and no matter how great your natural talent, there is only one way to obtain and sustain it: work.”

For the players of Alabama, it is critical for them to understand that Alabama Football was built on hard work and perseverance. All the success is a result of it, and the program can only sustain continued success if all parties involved continue to put forth the effort that has made ALABAMA what it is today: the standard.

It’s no different than what Coach Saban said prior to the 2010 season, when he addressed the team at Bryant-Denny Stadium, “I know it’s hard out there, nobody said it was gone be easy. It wasn’t easy ever before, either. It wasn’t easy gettin’ where we are. We ain’t givin’ it back.”

Roll Tide.

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The Buzz: Gone Girl

“I never understood why when you died, you didn’t just vanish, everything could just keep going on the way it was only you just wouldn’t be there. I always thought I’d like my tombstone to be blank. No epitaph, and no name. Well, actually, I’d like it to say ‘figment’.”

Gone Girl, Photo: Esquire Those were the words of the late Andy Warhol. I’d come across that quote quite some time ago, yet I’d never been able to decode it. However, after reading and viewing Gone Girl, Mr. Warhol’s words suddenly made a great deal of sense.

I’d just finished Gillian Flynn’s third novel about ten minutes past the hour, and raced down to the theater to catch the film 40 minutes later. As I drove down the street, I don’t believe that I’d yet processed what I’d read. It all just kind of.. hit you. I pulled into the lot of my local Harkins Theatre, parking, and thinking “..what!?” And that’s when I realized Gone Girl was quite the piece of work.

It is a tale set in suburban Missouri. Nick and Amy Dunne relocate to a small town — Nick’s birthplace — from New York City, after both losing their writing jobs. Internet casualties, Nick frequently reminds the reader.

The story, almost immediately, flashes back to the beginning of Nick and Amy — instant honeymoon phase. But as is nature, life happens and the Dunne’s relationship is repeatedly tested to the brink. Then suddenly, Amy Dunne vanishes from their home — and foul play is suspected — with all clues pointing to her husband, Nick; setting the story up for a thrilling whodunneit.

Ben Affleck and Rosamund Pike portray the Dunne’s in the 2oth Century Fox film adaptation. Both Affleck and Pike seize their roles, unblemished, and embody nearly every aspect the reader had imagined of the fictitious characters. Released in theaters on October 3rd, the film also co-stars Tyler Perry and Neil Patrick Harris.

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Signed Sirelle: OCTOBER 2014 – “Love Yourself, First”

red paint white backgroundWe all know those people: the guys and the girls who cannot be alone.

I have long wondered what causes such an epidemic of bouncing from relationship to relationship, and being madly in love (after two weeks) in each of them. Daddy issues or a lack of mommy hugs, perhaps.

But while we may forever search for the root of this issue, we at least know of a solution: self-love. The problem is, it’s a solution not many know how to embrace.

Long ago, I had to learn the hard way that I was only going to be happy with another individual if I was first happy with myself. One should never go searching for someone who will create the emotion, rather someone who will complement what’s already there. And that notion isn’t just limited to love and happiness, but all aspects of life. 

The reality of the matter is that you are responsible for your own happiness. If you cannot be happy with yourself, you cannot love yourself. And how can you expect another individual to feel an emotion for you that you can’t even feel for yourself? It’s an antagonistic expectation that places unwarranted pressure on an unsuspecting individual.

It is my own personal belief that self-love is the greatest love of all, because it creates the ability to produce all other forms of love. It’s important to understand that self-love is not arrogance or the idea of being self-absorbed, rather being comfortable with one’s inner-self. “Self-love has very little to do with how you feel about your outer self,” Tyra Banks once said. “It’s about accepting all of yourself.” And when an individual accepts all of their self, they make it easy for someone else to come along and do the same.

Signed,

Sirelle

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Signed Sirelle: SEPTEMBER 2014 – “The Continued Audacity of a Society”

When carried out in the absence of error, justice is one of democracy’s finest features. We as a society deem justice to be a deserving consequence resulting from an injustice; and when offenders commit unjustifiable offenses, we hope to see it served. With that being said, it is evident that we, again as a society, have lost our way — all in the name of justice.

angry mob, The Simpsons

Collectively, as citizens in this democracy we are the jurors. Nothing less, and nothing more. Yet it is the latter concept that many seem to struggle grasping, as in addition to being the jury, many also want to be the judge and executioner. Look no further than the Ray Rice domestic violence occurrence dominating media outlets. We can all agree — or I believe that we should — that the punch Rice delivered to his then-fiancée was heinous. Having said that, I also believe in forgiveness. And so should you.

President Jimmy Carter once said that, “We have a tendency to condemn people who are different from us, to define their sins as paramount and our own as being insignificant.” That extract is not to belittle the odious nature of Ray Rice’ actions, yet to put into perspective the public’s bloodthirsty reaction to it.

Nearly three years ago I authored the editorial Penn State: The Shame, The Blame, & The Audacity of a Society, in which I stated my hell-bent purpose “to shed light on the hypocrisy and inconsistent scrutinization exhibited by the media and [the public].” We have a history of this, you see. Society loves to point their finger at the guilty — well, sometimes (see: #Ferguson) — while they’re unbeknownst of the three pointing back at themselves.

Personally, I have always been careful not to succumb to this trend, as I find a fine line between wanting to see justice served, and longing for an individual’s downfall. My father was murdered when I was seven years old. And nearly 17 years later, as I author this editorial, his case remains frigidly cold. Even so, I am careful to never pray for a inhumane downfall of those who took him from his loved ones, as such will never bring my father back. Do I hope justice — life in prison, in this case — is served, absolutely. But to go any further than that makes me no better than his executioners.

I believe it is vital that all individuals recognize that not one of us is perfect. You didn’t call for your relative’s employment to be terminated when they struck their spouse, so why Ray Rice? Be consistent. We live in a society where people are genuinely more irate when professional athletes take steroids than they are when unarmed citizens are executed by police. So if you’re going to be a drum major for justice, go all the way. Don’t caps lock your voice in regards to one injustice, yet fade into sleep mode with another.

We all make mistakes. And stating as much does not mean I’m condoning the act of violence Rice carried out, but I do believe that I have the responsibility to forgive any sinner as I have, too, committed my own. I have never laid a hand on a woman, but just because I have transgressed differently doesn’t give me the right to eternally condemn another individual.

Signed,

Sirelle

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